You Don't Have to Have It Figured Out Before You Start
Updated: Oct 1
People with ADHD — myself very much included — want to be good at everything right out of the gate, with no prep, no ramp-up, no time spent being bad at it first.
I oscillate constantly between knowing that's not realistic and still feeling that "what do you mean I'm not getting this immediately" frustration. Even now, prepping and planning this exact course, there are pieces I'm figuring out as I go. It's trial and error, still, even for me.
The way I talk clients through this, when something isn't clicking right away: I ask about goals — subbasement flooring goals, I call them. Not the long-term version, not even the ambitious version.
The smallest possible piece. If someone says they're going to hit the gym five days a week for an hour, I bring them to one day, thirty minutes.
It feels like it's not enough, but if you haven't been consistent in months and you go straight to five days with zero wiggle room, one missed Wednesday and you're spiraling into "why can't I ever follow through on anything."
A low floor doesn't cap you — if you've already hit it and want more, that's gravy. The point is sitting at that floor until it feels consistently good before you even think about raising it.
It's like a road trip. You don't only count it as progress once you've arrived 150 miles away. If you check the mile marker and you're at 30, you've moved the dial.
That's the actual thing I look for with clients, and it's the actual thing I want you asking yourself here: are you thinking about this differently than you were last time? Did you do something today you weren't doing yesterday? That's progress. That's the whole metric.
I know a lot more today than I did when I started building this back in October. I didn't have it figured out then either. You don't need to have it figured out to start this course — you need the smallest next piece, and a system that meets you exactly there.
Start with the free 4-Piece System Map — see the whole shape of it before you build a single piece — join the waitlist for the full course, and check out my other posts for the rest of the free tools in this system.
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If there's one thing you'll learn about me, it's that I'd rather build a system once than do the same thing the hard way over and over. Whether that's a voice memo prompt, an Airtable base that actually holds itself together, or a shortcut that makes me think, "why didn't I build this sooner?", I'm grateful you're here and I hope you found something that makes your own system feel a little more possible. Wishing you clarity, momentum, and a lot less overwhelm wherever you're building.
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